Relationship Therapy for Individuals
You Don't Have to Keep Repeating the Same Painful Patterns.
Have you ever walked away from a relationship – romantic, family, or friendship – and thought: how did I end up here again?
Maybe you give and give until there's nothing left. Maybe you lose yourself in relationships, putting others first so automatically that you've stopped noticing you're doing it. Maybe you stay too long, leave too fast, or shut down before someone can get close enough to hurt you.
These aren't character flaws. They're patterns — learned responses to early experiences that once kept you safe.
Relationship therapy for individuals is about understanding those patterns, where they come from, and how to start choosing differently.
This is Not Couples Therapy
This work is for you – one person – who wants to understand how you show up in relationships and why. You don't need to be in a partnership to benefit, and you don't need a partner to participate.
Many of my clients are:
Navigating a painful breakup or divorce
Working through codependency and chronic people-pleasing
Trying to understand their attachment style and why they keep attracting the same dynamics
Setting boundaries for the first time — and learning to hold them
Healing after emotional, psychological, or sexual abuse in a relationship
Exploring what healthy intimacy can look like after a religious upbringing that handed them rigid, harmful scripts about gender roles and relationships
Many of my clients discover that the relationship patterns they're struggling with have deep roots in their religious upbringing. You may have been taught what a "good wife" looks like, that submission is love, that your needs are secondary, or that your worth is tied to your role in a relationship.
These messages don't disappear when you leave a faith tradition. They live in your body, your reflexes, your defaults.
Together, we can name them, understand them, and gently begin to loosen their grip.
The Religious Trauma Connection
My Approach
I work from an attachment-based and relational psychodynamic framework, which means we look at the roots — not just the symptoms. We'll explore:
How your earliest relationships shaped your attachment style
The relational scripts you inherited from family, culture, and religion
How you use relationships to cope — and what you truly need from connection
How to develop boundaries that are grounded in your values, not your fear
I am kink-positive and affirming of polyamory and non-monogamous relationship structures. All relationship styles are welcome here.
If you're ready to understand yourself more deeply and build relationships that actually feel good, I'd love to connect. Start with a free 15-minute consultation.
FAQs
Can we work on my relationship even if my partner isn't in therapy?Yes. Individual relationship therapy is entirely about your inner world and patterns. You don't need your partner's participation — in fact, some of the most powerful relational shifts happen when one person does their own deep work.
What if I'm not in a relationship right now?That's completely fine! And sometimes the best time to do this work. Many clients use this time to understand their patterns before entering their next relationship, or to heal from a previous one.